relationships

Jet Noir

Nov 21, 20176 min read

Ethical Non-Monogamy

November 18th marked the 52nd wedding anniversary of my parents. They still live in the house in which I was raised. I grew up...

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Jet Noir

Jun 4, 20164 min read

Holding Space For The Lament

“I just need you to hold space.” That’s the phrase that I’ve decided to begin using when people derail my lament. The phrase “hold...

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Jet Noir

Apr 16, 20164 min read

The next time you (I) fall in love…

Dear Jet, If you’re reading this letter that Past Jet wrote to you, then it may already be too late. You fall in love too easily. To be...

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Sex Gets Me Up: Energy For A Busy Life, Part 4/7

Jet Noir

Mar 26, 20164 min read

Sex Gets Me Up: Energy For A Busy Life, Part 4/7

Sex as a form of caffeine. A ridiculous concept that I hope all of you are willing to try. I drink about 2.5 cups of coffee a day. The...

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Jet Noir

Mar 5, 20163 min read

Unrequited

About 15 years ago, I finished my second book (a collection of poems) entitled, “Heavy Mettle.” Lately, I’ve been revisiting the...

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Jet Noir

Jan 29, 20168 min read

Whose Orgasm Is It Anyway?

Did you ever hear the one about the woman who had multiple orgasms… for three hours!? Her orgasms weren’t all pleasure, nor were they a...

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Jet Noir

Jan 15, 20162 min read

Portraits Of Gratitude

There are times when I sit down and write without a goal or promise to myself. In that freeform mode of thinking (often fueled by...

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Jet Noir

Jan 8, 20167 min read

I’m Not A Real Man

What does it take to be a real man? I don’t know. For all of the gentlemen reading this, I have bad news. You’ll never know either. In my...

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Find My Friends [Part 4/4]: Get Your 💩 Together

Jet Noir

Nov 23, 20155 min read

Find My Friends [Part 4/4]: Get Your 💩 Together

I was once asked what type of work shop I would create (of the self-improvement variety) to which I promptly replied, “Get your 💩...

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Find My Friends [Part 2/4]: Interracial Dating

Jet Noir

Nov 9, 20155 min read

Find My Friends [Part 2/4]: Interracial Dating

Good Morning! This week’s post is part two in a four-part series of how I choose my friends. I’m writing this in hopes that it may...

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Jet Noir

Oct 12, 20154 min read

A Perversion Of Love?

“Today I believe in the possibility of love; that is why I endeavor to trace its imperfections, its perversions.” -Frantz Fanon In a city...

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Jet Noir

Sep 13, 20156 min read

Develop My Mind And Share My Knowledge

In the basement of my parent’s house, in what used to be my old room, my brother hung a list of commitments. They read like a creed for...

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Jet Noir

Aug 16, 20155 min read

Strength Is A Choice

Strength is not a matter of chance. Strength is not a matter of destiny. Strength is not a matter of genetics. (Your parents have well...

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Jet Noir

May 10, 20157 min read

My Momma’s Advice (A Word On Arrogance)

I still remember the first time that someone called me arrogant. I was in the seventh grade and I had to ask my Momma what it meant. I...

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Four Ways to Stop Making Assumptions (Keeping The Third Agreement)

Jet Noir

Mar 29, 20158 min read

Four Ways to Stop Making Assumptions (Keeping The Third Agreement)

To paraphrase Samuel L. Jackson (from “The Long Kiss Goodnight”), “When you make an assumption you make an ass out of both ‘u’ and...

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